What is the best thing to do for being a working mom without feeling guilty about it?

In todays world, moms need to work, There is nothing you can do, my wife and I both work, it’s the real world. Sorry but you just need to get over it, it sucks I don’t like leaving my son in day care but you need money to take care of the kid. Such is life.

Don’t feel guilty. as your child grows up this is what she will know. Mommy works to help support me. You have to do it. Just spend some good quality time when you can.

Ask yourself this.
On weekends do you spend every waking moment with your baby. Watching her so you will remember every smile, every cry when she gets hungry, every time she throws a toy, etc…? Do you ever wish she would stay asleep during nap time a little longer so you can vacuum or finish the laundry?
If the answer to the last part was even “Ok, maybe a little.” Then how do you think you would be coping after 7 days a week 52 weeks every year?
Raising a child can get tiring. Enjoy your time at work. You are still providing for your child. Your child is expereincing things at daycare that she wouldn’t be able to at home.
It is good for her, and you.

Just make sure to spend all the time you DO have with her, enjoying her even if she is crying.

All working moms feel like this at first. It is separation anxiety for both of you. If you are providing the only income for the house, you must work (this was my situation). So you are performing a very important function by working. If you weren’t working, you would regress as a person. Moms need stimulus from other adults. Just cherish the time you have with your baby. You give her the best of your attention by maintaining your own personality by interacting with other adults.

sometimes we feel that we are being a bad mother, but it is so wrong we need to work and be healthy and happy for our child as long as you show your child how much you love them by talking to them and even reading to them and just being with them and loving them unconditionally. a baby will sense you are there and they will know it

I never could get over that feeling, so I found a job that enables me to be with my kids. I’ve driven school bus for 8 years now, and it’s been fabulous to be able to be there for my kids and still bring in some money. I’m a single mom, too, so not only is the need for money greater, but the guilt over the kids is greater. Women were meant to be with their kids and raise them. Nobody can love your child like you, nobody else will teach them what you want them to be taught. God gave that child to YOU to raise. Sometimes it can be unavoidable to have to work a job where you have to leave them with a sitter. Sometimes it just isn’t worth the extra money. Whatever you do, don’t buy the child to make up for being gone. That teaches them that money is the solution to everything, and we all know it simply isn’t. You might get over the guilt feeling in time. . . but I think it’s just getting used to the feeling, ignoring the feeling, covering it up, and not solving anything. I’d suggest finding ways to live with less money, finding a job where you can be available more for your baby, and doing what you feel is right.

as long as youspend quality time with her at night and at weekends working is fine. its something we have to do.

dont worry you just have to work now to make a better future for her. spend time with her when u get back from work and during weekends. just let her know mummy loves her.cheers

I’ve never gotten over that feeling, and my kids are 6 and 8 now, lol! If there is ANY way you can stay home, say like a year, do it. The child will benefit tremendously. Looking back, I still regret not being home with my babies when they were little. My husband wouldn’t let me stay home. Now guess what? We’re divorced now, he remarried last year, and he lets his new wife stay home with his stepkids! Bastard.

Just take heed in some great knowledge that goes against all those stay at home mums who think working mums are terrible for leaving their children. Reaserch shows that leaving you child in full-time day care (more than 40 hours a week) can be damaging if it is for more than four months within the first year. Secondly, it has also been seen that working mums who enjot their jobs are far more likely to bring agreater sense of self esteem and confidence to their children’s lives as well as pack more quality time into what time they spend with their children. The idea goes that two hours with your children when you have missed them all day is better than seven hours of sporadic attention. Also, very recent studies have shown that working mums live longer and are less unhelthy and/or overweight. Don’t feel guilty just make sure there are lots of cuddles and games when you are around.

well. spend more time with your child after work then and part of your weekend.